So on Saturday, three weeks after losing his wife, Lady, Tramp had some speed dates and the one with this bunny, Topaz went really well…
But no one is suddenly happy. I had heard about the surviving rabbit getting their spark back when they get a new bun friend. We’re two days in, Tramp does not have his spark back. This isn’t me saying that things aren’t going well because they are! We’ve started snuggling and grooming and skirmishes have decreased already, like all things considered other than poop being everywhere, all is going quite well.
But Topaz has not groomed Tramp. Now he’s been the aggressor in skirmishes and she’s just been so chill about it all like she just walks away from him, and I know is just about time and her needing consistency of him not trying to mount her before she starts to love on him. But I think he’s desperate for that. Because Lady gave him that. I miss the boy who does aggressive binkies around the house. It will break my heart if he never comes back.
I miss Lady. Topaz is an angel, she’s truly a little puppy. She loves cuddles and kisses and pets. She’s a perfect bunny. But she’s isn’t Lady and that’s also been a huge heartbreak. I was not ready to get a companion for Tramp but I knew it was what he needed. So every time she doesn’t reciprocate grooming or he tries to mount her, I get sad like what if I made the wrong choice and he doesn’t want someone new? But every time he cuddles her or they share food, I get sad because Tramp spent the past three weeks needing me, spending every waking second with me even resulting in me leaving work early or getting up in the middle of the night to snuggle. I know THAT wasn’t sustainable… but now it leaves me to focus on my own grief, pain I’ve been so busy trying to soothe in him that I’ve ignored it in myself.
I guess what I’m saying is I love Topaz and she’s a good girl. I’m going to give her a beautiful life. But of anyone in my same position is hoping that getting a new bunny will wave a magic wand and ease the grief of the surviving bunny, that’s not how it works
by samsam4short